Thank you all so much!

I came back to my blog and was floored by all the love and comments. Thank you all *so* much!

I’ve been trying to sort things out and make some life-changing decisions, like…where am I going to live? …how will I pay the bills? …what do I do with all the animals? …am I leaving Michigan and if I do, will I have to live in the south? (Most of my family is in Florida, Georgia and Louisiana. Have I ever mentioned here how much I hate the heat?)

Financially things are tight, but by the grace of God I’m making it. I’ve got so much yarn to dye, so much handspun and handdyed to post in my shops, a pattern and yarn KAL to post in my Rav group and more. And absolutely no ambition to do any of it. Chasing my grandson is so much more fun and distracting.

I’m comfortable with the idea of living alone…I like quiet. I’m trusting God that I’ll figure out how to handle things financially. I just need to figure out where I’ll be. I’m seriously considering looking around in Grand Rapids for a job and a place to live.

The biggest issue is insurance. Right now the stbx* has good insurance that covers most everything including optical and dental. Once divorced, I no longer qualify. As it works, the courts would require him to pay me some rehabilitive alimony (nearly 50% of his takehome pay) and also for him to carry ‘comparable’ insurance for me. Because of my health issues and medications, that would be costly….likely more than he actually makes. Apparently we cannot afford to get divorced.

So Monday I’m heading down to FIA to find out what my options are if I just file and don’t ask for any additional support. I do have the house (his name’s on it, but he may be willing to sign a quit claim deed for me since he did tell me that any profit from a sale would be mine..thank you, dear) but selling anything up here right now is nearly impossible. Crawford County is the 2nd or 3rd poorest county in the state. It’s unlikely that I will be able to even list, never mind sell the house until the snow’s melted (late April 2010.) So I’m digging in and getting the propane filled, having pellets delivered (we heat with a pellet stove) and trying to patch anything in the roof that might lead to water in the house.

This house is an older manufactured home, pre-BOCA, which means that it didn’t have to conform to very strict standards. The wallboard is 3/8″, the plumbing is leaky grey plastic Quest, and there is absolutely no insulation anywhere between the inside and outside. None. It needs a new bathroom (mine) and new roof (something that I’ll make a concession on in a sale) and to be completely painted (we’re working on this.) And after that, if I can scrounge up enough money and get a good enough deal from a local purveyor, we’ll put down some new carpeting. All this is speculation, given that I’m still working for grocery money. 🙂

Emotionally, I think I’m doing all right. I find it’s hard to tell. I’ve read a few books about it and find that I don’t really conform to anything they’re saying. Perhaps it has something to do with still being in my home…or having my daughter and grandson here rather than being alone…I’ve no clue. But I do feel pretty strong. I guess time will tell.

And that’s all I have to say. Life’s still going on and I’m doing pretty good. Thank you all for caring…that’s the best part!


My babies…:-)



*stbx: soon-to-be-ex


~ by perchance2knit on September 20, 2009.

8 Responses to “Thank you all so much!”

  1. Susie, I’ve been trying to call you. You need a prayer partner, and I’ve been praying. Call me!
    Love you,

  2. Shingle. And really mushy under the shingle. 17 years old, not done well to begin with. Leaky. :::sigh::: I’ll be up there shoveling the snow off this winter too…

  3. What kind of roof is it? Metal or shingle?

  4. Hi! I was so happy to find a new post and hear from you – especially to hear that you are coping with things thus far. That grandbaby sure is a doll and I can see why he is way more fun than fiber. Your yarn fans (me! me!) will still be here whenever your shop has something to sell. Take care – prayers are coming your way.

  5. snuggle that baby while you can, before you know it he’ll be graduating from school! Which you know that already, but he’s better cause you can hand him back and don’t have to change the dirty duds.
    Things will work themselves out, it will be hard, but you can do it. Your such a strong and smart lady. I can’t tell you how happy I am to have known you the past few years. Who knew that by knitting and spinning I would “meet” such great people. ((hugs))

  6. “And absolutely no ambition to do any of it. Chasing my grandson is so much more fun and distracting.”

    Ambition takes energy – and your energy is being consumed right now. The fibre world will gladly wait — your Grandson is growing every day! Soak up all that baby love while you can — not that the love gets less as he gets bigger, but you know what I mean.

    Whether it counts for much – I’m behind you. Thinking of you and wishing you well!

  7. I’m glad you’re doing well. I wanted to call and talk to you and offer my support, but I didn’t want to intrude or make you think about something that you’d rather avoid. You and your family have been in my thoughts and in my prayers, though.

  8. Oh, Susie! I just happened to notice in my sidebar that you’d posted and decided to stop by. I’m so sorry to hear that things are in such upheaval right now. But you sound strong and like a woman with a plan. Sounding strong is half the battle. If you believe it, you can do anything. Even so, I’m still sending lots of good thoughts your way for the days when you need a little extra support. Be well. ::hugs::

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